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11/24/2017

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11/8/2017

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Can one Person save the Relationship/ Marriage

9/22/2017

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This is something I have been thinking about for a while . Can one partner save a marriage/relationship? Can one make some changes to save a relationship? It sounds counter intuitive. In a marriage / relationship there are usually two people involved and when things are good, it’s because the two people are making it work. When there are challenges in a marriage / relationship what can one person do? Turns out that one person can make a difference. Except when there is physical abuse, emotional abuse, addiction, multiple lies and affairs involved.
The following actions can help when the marriage/relationship has lost its luster, when one partner seems oblivious or does not seem to care.

Here are four actions that one person can do

Stay committed to the relationship: This is perhaps the most important. Even if the other person has checked out and even if there are challenges in the relationship, the commitment to stay with the partner is often helpful. It is difficult but taking it one day at a time is easier and a doable goal.
Continue to show respect to each other. Respect is one of the mainstays of a good relationship, so continuing to show the same respect. Remember not to bad mouth the partner/ spouse if children are present. Remember not to show the frustration with the partner/ spouse in public, in front of friends and family.
Be Mindful and aware of the pattern of communication. Discover if both partners are being defensive, sarcastic, argumentative, dismissive etc. Decide to change this particular dance and modify the steps.
Leave the Ego behind. Apologizing after an argument does not bruise the ego. It is not a competition, marriage/ relationship often requires ‘togetherness’.

If you need more information or would like to contact Dr. Datta please call 201-952-9905.

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How Not to Procrastinate

8/18/2017

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How to Deal with negative Thoughts

4/23/2017

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Anxious people have anxious thoughts. That seems to be very simple to understand but what constitutes these anxious thoughts?
A lot of the time Anxious people engage in ‘what if’s’. What if I dont pass this test? The test is important but rumination is not helpful What if my child does not play any sports, and is socially isolated at school? Again, its not helpful to dwell on this thought. What if , what if the list can go on.

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Setting Limits

4/6/2017

Setting Limits.

In the past few days I have met parents struggling to establish appropriate behaviors with their children ranging in age from 6 years to 12 years old. It can be challenging to set rules and regulations, provide consistent discipline and to stick with the consequences for behaviors. Of course, children’s temperament and personality and the immediate environment also play a very big part in setting effective boundaries. Research and present knowledge suggest that parents need to know their child and also know themselves.

Here are some suggestions to help .

Set rules and regulations at home early on . Know what rules you want to set in your household. Ideally we start when kids are young. Children should know that some behaviors are unacceptable and will not be tolerated. For example, biting, hitting others or hitting themselves, kicking and throwing things are all unacceptable behaviors.
Make sure that rules are age appropriate. For example, a 3 year old will not be able to clean up her toys by herself, but she can definitely help. However, a 5 year old is capable of much more.
Set time limits on electronics. Again, though it will differ with age, setting time limits on TV shows or video games is important so there is time for homework, and other family activities.
For school age children, homework is important. Make it a priority early on. Ideally, homework to be completed before playing on the video/ computer etc.
Don’t let the child rule the home. They might want to set their own bedtime, play time or dinner time. They may sound wise beyond their years sometimes, but children’s brains are still developing.
When the kids push back, Stay CALM. Infact sometimes, children will wear the parents down with persistence if they have had success with that just once. As parents, take time to respond, not react. If you are feeling tired and overwhelmed and exhausted every day, it’s time for some SELF CARE. Exercise, eat well and Sleep well each day.

Remember: Kids flourish in an environment of love and also limits.
If you would like to make an appointment with Dr Datta please call the office at 845-369-7627 or 201-952-9905.

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Weight Loss
Sleep
Exercise