Domestic violence has been in the news recently with the video of NFL player Ray Rice topping the list. The NFL has partnered with the National Domestic Violence hotline to educate people and campaign to end the violence. It is a step in the right direction.
Here are some facts on Domestic Violence
1. 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence during her lifetime.
2. Women experience more than 4 million physical assaults and rapes because of their partners, and men are victims of nearly 3 million physical assaults.
3. Women are more likely to be killed by an intimate partner than men
4. Women ages 20 to 24 are at greatest risk of becoming victims of domestic violence.Every year, 1 in 3 women who is a victim of homicide is murdered by her current or former partner.
Domestic violence is complicated, however it is NEVER the fault of the victim.
Red Flags of Abusers
Jealousy- The partner is jealous of coworkers, friends or even strangers.
Controlling behavior- Constant checking up, texting constantly, looking through recent phone conversations, cloaking the behavior in ‘ concern’.
Isolation from family and friends- convincing partners that parents are judgmental or overbearing, siblings are overbearing, friends are really not true friends. These are all done in an effort to isolate the individual.
Blames others for all his/her problems and feelings. Will often accuse the partner of causing anger, rage or jealousy, for example
.Hypersensitivity- to perceived criticism, perceived ‘slights’ and insults, perceived aggression.
Cruelty to animal or children- verbal abuse towards children, physical aggression against children especially if the partner does not agree to demands.
Verbal abuse- calling partner derogatory names, using curses
Past history of battering and threats of violence including breaking, striking objects and/or throwing things.
Domestic violence can happen in any community, irrespective of gender, race,class, religion.
Every situation is unique and the needs of every person is individual. Why some women stay in an abusive relationship is also a complex issue.
If you or anyone you know would like more information check out http://www.thehotline.org/resources/resources/. For psychotherapy call Dr. Datta @ 201-952-9905